“On a long enough time line, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club: A Novel
I turned 42 in 2012 and this triggered a large mid-life crisis. I’d achieved a lot in my life:
- I’d run several marathons,
- completed triathlons (including an Ironman back in 2010),
- had two great kids,
- got married to a smashing, wonderful woman, and
- had a career as opposed to just a job.
But the realization that I had fewer years ahead of me that behind me forced me to reflect on the meaning in my life. I started to question, just what really matters to make my remaining time on planet Earth the happiest possible.
In other words reaching 42 was a trigger for coming to terms with “me”, understanding more about myself and a time for possibly taking some new directions.
I also realised that a large body of work could potentially help, especially in the fields of self-help, psychology, stoicism, evolutionary biology and philosophy to name but a few. However it soon became clear that gaining knowledge and happiness wasn’t as much of a problem. It was actually being able to apply it in a practical way during my normal busy life.
So, Vivid Hope is about actually being able to use some of this wisdom and learning in a highly pragmatic way and constructing a coherent world-view.
In some ways Vivid Hope is a very self-indulgent blog as it’s full of things which I’m doing or thinking about which are important to my happiness on a personal level: things which are necessary for me to make sense of life and to enjoy it even more. But I’m sure that you’ll find that you can apply my musings in your life too. If you can, great. However, I’m not providing medical, legal, or other professional advice here and in no way does anything I write constitute it. The content on Vivid Hope is designed to support, not replace, medical or psychiatric treatment. I’m not a professional, I do this for me and for fun. If you believe you may have a condition, please seek qualified professional care.
As the psychologist Carl Jung said, mid-life is a time to listen deeply to your heart. Whether we plan for this or not, midlife can be a period of transition and reappraisal. More inner questioning can occur.
Finally, my cat’s name is Mavis. This is a picture of her: